January is the king of months for those looking to make new
beginnings. After the reflections and indulgences of December,
the excitement of a new year unfolding brings contemplation of
better days ahead. Unfortunately for many, contemplation is
where the party ends. As the clock ticks over into February and
then unwinds into March, hopes of transformation begin to fade,
the habits of old return, together with the routines of years
past. Not because of a lack of enthusiasm or good intentions
mind you, but rather a lack of knowing where to start.
The best place to start.
What I am going to say now may sound radical as well as a little
simplistic, but the best place for you to start is from exactly
where you are right now. Take some time to actually let these
words sink in, as they contain the seeds of your own personal
greatness.
'If only'.
You've probably caught yourself contemplating at one stage or
another what it would be like 'if only' you could start
somewhere else. I know that I have felt this way at various
stages in the past. The type of internal ponderings I am talking
about here are things such as 'if only I'd gone to University',
'if only my parents hadn't got divorced', 'if only I had more
experience', then maybe, just maybe I'd have what it takes to go
after my dreams.
If you find yourself engaging in this kind of dialogue, then
start to build your awareness around it. Regardless of the
experiences that you've either had to relish or endure in the
past, they have given you one magical ingredient. They have
prepared you for now. All your disappointments, triumphs, hopes
and fears have brought you to this moment. In acknowledging and
accepting them as they are, you consciously begin to reclaim
your power to take control of your own life.
Know where you want to go.
Once you have accepted where you are, you have to decide where
it is you want to go. If no particular course of action
immediately resonates with you, then begin to more fully explore
the things that you enjoy doing most. Think about what your life
would be like if you spent more of your life experiencing the
things that you really love. We all have the power to achieve
this within us, you just have to be prepared to be open to it.
If on the other hand you're not enjoying anything at this
present time in life then it is time for you to start being a
little more experimental. Begin to do things that you've never
done before. Enroll on a photography course, strike up a
conservation with someone you don't know or go and spend some
time in nature. Make sure whatever you choose to do is outside
of your present comfort zone. When you continually broaden your
experience of life, you create the opportunities necessary to
re-ignite your passion for living.
What are you prepared to change?
To get from where you are now to where you want to go you have
to go through a process of transformation. It doesn't mean you
have to change everything all at once but it does mean you have
to change. Take some to time to think about what it is you are
'prepared' to change in order to move in the direction of your
dreams. So many of us focus on what we feel we 'should' change.
For example, if you are a smoker and for whatever reason you
feel it is something you 'should' change, just ask yourself
whether it is something you are 'prepared' to change. As soon as
you are 'prepared' to change, you will find a way to give up
smoking forever.
Find support.
When you are making changes in your life one of the most
important things you can do is find yourself support. Support
can come in many different forms. It may come in the form of an
inspirational book, a workshop, a community group, an evening
class, a trusted friend or family member, a work mentor, a
personal trainer, a website forum or even a coach. Whatever the
source, make sure that it feels comfortable for you, not just at
an intellectual level but also from an intuitive level as well.
Having your essential support structures in place will give you
the confidence to stride boldly in the direction of your dreams.
All you have to do next is start from exactly where you are.
Copyright Damien Senn 2005. All rights reserved.
About the author:
Damien Senn is a Life and Business Coach as well as a fully
qualified Chartered Accountant. He helps professionals, artists
and entrepreneurs create compelling futures.
He is the author of the 'Senn-Sational Success Journal' and has
developed his own coaching model called the 'Senn-Sational
Success System'.
For more information see www.senn-sational.com or email
ezines@senn-sational.com.
